Ever had your in-laws try to go on your
honeymoon? Have they shown up just as
your pulling out of your driveway conveniently packed and ready to join you on
your vacation? Or are you what I refer
to as the “lucky few” – those who get along with your in-laws. Either way here is some advice on how to save
your family vacation.
Have
kids? Use your in-laws as free babysitters.
You may not be able to have them sit every day so plan your itinerary
accordingly. Decide along with your spouse what part of the day you’d prefer they
care for the grandkids. At some point
you’ll have to review this with your in-laws. They will more than likely have
some ideas of their own regarding “their” vacation. Remember this idea only works if your in-laws
feel useful not used. If this is not handled carefully you may have a
stress-cation instead of a vacation. For you few, you happy few – you band of
sisters. Okay, I’m off the soapbox.
Seriously, those of you that get along with your in-laws have no idea the
enormity of your luck. Your in-laws may
actually pay for part of the vacation or cook meals. They might want the kids
all day, every day!
Don’t
forget the sleeping arrangements. It would be wise to work that out in
advance. Are you renting an apartment,
suite, rooms or cabin? Will you be
sharing these accommodations with your in-laws? Are they making separate
arrangements? They might have friends or family near the destination area they
may want to stay with. Be sure to hammer
this out before any reservations are made.
I have a friend who planned out the entire
vacation only to find out her in-laws planned to leave three days early to
visit with cousins before returning home.
Needless to say my friend was upset.
She’d already made the reservations and created an itinerary based on a
ten day trip. This was emotional and financial stress she probably could have
done without. Did I mention she didn’t the
news flash until after arriving at the
hotel. So for those of you who can’t deal with a short visit with your in-laws
without visions of hara–kiri (\ha-ri-ˈkir-ē\) a vacation with the in-laws may not
be such a good idea. If you can’t even sit down with your in-laws to plan a
trip where you’ll spend most your time in their company – nix it.
Hopefully your spouse understands that
your relationship takes precedence over his need to please his parents. He should be able to support a decision that
might mean the in-laws will not be joining your trip. If you have a strong
relationship with your spouse, he should feel empowered to say “Mom, Dad – it’s
just not a good idea this time.” For
better or worse you have inherited another set of parents. For better or worse
you will have to figure out some way of incorporating them into your lives. Nothing
says they have to be incorporated into your vacation.
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