Do:
Compliment me - Send positive energy my way; put a hold
on the negativity. There must be something
I do right in your eyes. Focus on that and let things grow from there.
Accept me - I'm not you, I will never be you, I’m the
person your son fell in-love with. I am
the woman your son chose to spend the rest of his life with and have his
children. You raised him, trust you did a good job.
Acknowledge me - I am the woman of this house. Your home is your castle, this one’s mine! Respect the decisions that are made
in my home, remember you are a guest. If I ask you not smoke in my home, don’t.
If my home is vegan, don’t harp on the lack of meat in your meal. If I say our bedroom is off limits, hello –
there’s the whole rest of the house to roam.
Don't:
Blame me – I am not responsible for what your son says
or does (or doesn't); he’s an adult. Maybe
he has “changed” – maybe he’s growing as a husband. He has new responsibilities
now. He still loves you, I promise that will not change.
Talk about me – Please don’t go behind my back and
discuss me with your son. This puts him
in the middle of the two women his loves most in the world. Don’t push him to choose, his choice may
surprise you. Instead come straight to
the source – me. I welcome the chance to
change your mind about me.
Stalk me – Stop calling or visiting several times a day;
give me time to miss you. This applies
to everyone: friends, co-workers and my family.
No one likes to be smothered. Do
you really want to star in an episode of Everybody
Loves Raymond? One guess on your role.
Wake me – Calls after 11PM for non-emergencies,
really? What thoughts running through
your mind whispered “It’s okay, call them.
They’ll want to chat”. Bored?
Read a book. Lonely? Roll-over, see him – that’s your husband, wake him up.
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